How to genuinely help someone who is grieving

When someone close to you loses a dear friend or relative, it can be hard to know what to do or say to help them feel better.

In most cases, processing the loss over time through grief can help. But that doesn’t mean they don’t appreciate you being nearby and ready to assist if need be.

Everyone grieves in their own way and it can be a long and painful process, but here’s what you can do to help them come to terms with their loss.

Stay in touch

Even if you feel you can’t do anything to help, it’s important that you stay in touch and let them know you’re still there. You don’t always have to be there physically – a simple phone call or text message to let them know you’re thinking of them is all it takes.

It might feel like you’re intruding or that the person doesn’t need you, but they really do. Once they start to feel better they’ll notice that you’re still there and they’ll be thankful to have such a good friend.

Be a good listener

If your friend or relative wants to talk, let them. Be a good listener, don’t interrupt, and let them cope with their grief by talking it out. You don’t have to have any answers or fix the situation. Often just being quietly in the same room with them can help enormously and make them feel like they’re still a part of everything and not alone.

Let them talk

When they’re ready to talk about the person, or just express their emotions, let them. Don’t act as if nothing has happened; it’s important that they come to terms with their loss by sharing memories and stories with you so they can process their grief and be left with happy memories.

Don’t judge

Grief affects everyone differently, so don’t judge how someone is behaving or comment on how long their grieving process is taking. It takes as long as it takes, and your support will help them get through this difficult and stressful time.

Be patient and understanding, and don’t discuss their way of processing their grief with other people, unless you really are concerned about their behaviour and need professional advice.

Help out with everyday chores

Many people will offer to help but never do anything specific. The grieving person doesn’t want to be a burden on others so they’ll often tell you they’re fine and don’t need anything.

Take a look around and do whatever needs to be done to make their life a little easier. It could be tidying up the house, doing a load of washing, walking the dog or stocking the fridge.

Practical help is always welcome, even if the person is too proud to ask for it. This is particularly helpful to someone who is grieving.

Arranging a funeral

Living Hope Funerals understands the importance of family, and we’re here to support, guide and help you choose the right funeral service and a meaningful farewell for your loved one.

We offer a range of funerals to help you honour and celebrate their life, with genuine compassion and personalised services to suit your individual requirements.

Contact Living Hope Funerals today and talk to one of our experienced funeral planners.

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